(Not) Well Enough Alone

How to boost your well-being by building your social circle

Summertime is short and sweet.

The air is warm, birds are singing, and there are plenty of opportunities to get outside and enjoy the season. It should be a happy time, right? Not for everyone. Numerous studies have found that loneliness tends to peak during the summer months.

There are a host of theories for why this happens, but one point is clear: It's harder to savor the summer when you're alone. And if you're feeling lonely right now, know this: You're not.

Depending on what surveys you read, between 30% and 60% of Americans experience loneliness on a regular basis. And isolation can be bad for your health — the U.S. Surgeon General has labeled loneliness as a public health epidemic.

So how can you create connections and better your heath? It's not like childhood, when making friends was almost effortless. Adults usually have to get more creative. And while making that first move isn't always easy, it can lead to a more fulfilling life. Here are some ways to get started.

Find common ground

Maybe the easiest way meet like-minded people is to tap into your existing interests. Love running or reading? Joining a gym or a book club can help you find a workout buddy or someone to unpack plot twists with.

Churches or communities of faith can also be great places to meet others who share your values. Or you can volunteer for a cause that matters to you. And nonprofits always need volunteers. You can find opportunities on Volunteer Match, which lets you search a database of more than 100,000 nonprofits.

Just say hi

Is there a neighbor you wave to or an acquaintance you often run into? You may even know from context clues that you share similar interests. Take things to the next level by inviting them on a walk or for a cup of coffee.

Yes, that first ask can be nerve-racking. But remember those stats about loneliness in America — you could well find that the idea has crossed the other person's mind too.

Try something new

If you needed a nudge to take up a new activity or sign up for a class, let this be your sign. Maybe you've always wanted to sharpen your culinary skills, try yoga, or learn a new language. Chances are you can find an inexpensive community education course that'll match your interests — and help you meet others.

Count on your community

Local gathering places can be great settings for growing friendships. You can forge new relationships with staff members and regulars, all while supporting your favorite small businesses. Coffee shops, restaurants, and the like often host events (think: live music and open mic nights) that offer opportunities to meet others in a relaxed environment.

Nicole Abendroth is a De Pere, Wisconsin-based freelance writer.